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| Let's talk about sex appeal versus Steph Appeal. |
Then again, none of those girls have probably ever reached inside the stomach of a cow. But I digress. (I have, however, done some pretty cool stuff in the name of science.)
Anyhow, I concluded this morning that I don't have traditional sex appeal, which may have something to do with why I didn't attract the high school and college set of boys. I don't wear form-fitting outfits, preferring comfort to style. I don't know how to flirt. I hate how makeup feels on my face - it itches and I feel sealed up - so I don't wear it. I keep my hair short, so I can't flip it in a bar to get someone's attention. I'm just...not very traditionally attractive.
I have what's called Steph Appeal instead.
Okay, let me explain that. I have a lot of things about me that would make me a great catch for somebody, although they're not often what people traditionally look for in a girl. Here are my best attributes:
- I'm a nerd. I play video games and read comic books and sci-fi and fantasy novels, as well as classical literature and history books. Basically, I'm not the girl who would force you to throw out your comic book collection if we moved in together. Hell, I'd be the one adding to it.
- I LOVE SPORTS. Hell, I WRITE ABOUT SPORTS. There's a fairly good chance that I know more about baseball than you. In fact, when I'm watching TV, it's usually baseball. Sometimes it's some other sport or maybe something really geeky. Basically, you won't have to fight with me over the remote if you want to watch sports.
- I have strangely good parental instincts. I credit this to always having cats and dogs in my house.
- I'm a genuinely nice person.
- I'm fun! I like doing stupid things and once I get to know you I'm cool to hang out with.
So...who wants to be my date?
The Steph Appeal sounds great to me! I bet lots of someones will find you a fantastic catch. Since you have so many uniquely cool qualities to offer, Steph, I wonder if you will find yourself drawn to guys who have more to offer than what's "traditionally appealing" as well?
ReplyDeleteI do tend to like my boys on the sweet, nerdy side, so that's probably true of me, ha! Liking baseball is a plus, as well, but in America it's pretty tough to find human beings who don't like baseball, so I guess I'm covered there, at least.
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I discovered that the US is not a culture of romance, and dating is much easier in certain other cultures.
ReplyDeleteOh by the way, Happy Pitchers And Catchers Report Day!!!
I guess I should move to one of those other countries, then. Too bad I suck at learning foreign languages, gah!
DeleteThank you! I'm so excited!
I did move to one of those countries for several months. It's the only time I've dated anyone in the last 10 years. People blame Aspergers Syndrome for dating problems way too much I think. If Aspergers Syndrome makes it harder for people to date, then why was it so easy for me in southeast Asia? What was different about me over there? Nothing! I think it is because of culture, not autism. Maybe I should attempt to write a post about dating, but it's a hard topic to write about without offending people or sounding like I am bitter or resentful.
ReplyDeleteI was in a used book store a few months ago and noticed a book called "Women", all about American women, written by American women in their own words. So I bought it, thinking it might help me understand women better. I was surprised by how many of those women wrote about how men never ask them out. It's a cultural problem. The romance is gone here. We're all just objects.
I have a female friend who never dated when she lived in the US. She moved to Spain several years ago and has been dating the same guy for years now.
Very, very true - the reason I never dated growing up is because I was made fun of as a kid and therefore was stigmatized ("who would go out with HER? She's ugly and weird"). Of course, that naturally meant I had no chance in my hometown - not only did everyone turn into a object here, but I was an undesirable object. And it's VERY hard to write about dating without sounding bitter, that's true - people are so cynical that anyone writing anything about why dating is hard gets labeled as bitter right away.
DeleteI guess I'll ship myself off to a non-American country and give it a go or something. Or just enjoy life either way. I'm not even desperate to be with somebody - I'm just so curious to try and see what everyone else experiences.
Really? I had trouble with dating and sex until I did an exchange to an American University. I got a lot of action, I have never experienced anything like it. It was a game changer for me. It gave me a shot of confidence, which when combined with an effort to understand the dating game, has led to a successful series of relationships, and other adventures.
ReplyDeleteI think there is a lot to be said for being a foreigner, it makes you exotic and interesting in the dating game.
I definitely agree with that - people do tend to be drawn to foreigners (even just foreign accents!), so there's definitely something there!
DeleteA lot of my problem is that I don't adhere to traditional gender roles and that freaks out a lot of people, too.
Call me nuts, but I actually think the Steph Appeal is much more attractive (despite the fact I´m not a sports fan). BTW, I´m also an Aspie who loves drawing ;-)
ReplyDeleteAww, shucks. <3 And hey, a fellow artistic Aspie! Awesome!
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